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Shame vs. Guilt

Bad about who you are versus bad about what you did.

The comparisoni

✗ Wrong

He felt guilt for being short.

✓ Correct

He felt shame for being short — SHAME is about identity (who I am). GUILT is about action (what I did).

The ruleii

SHAME = self. GUILT = act.

SHAME centres on the self ("I am bad"). GUILT centres on the action ("I did something bad"). Psychologists treat them differently: guilt prompts repair; shame prompts hiding. Both fall under self-conscious emotions.

Memory aidiii

Remember it like this

Shame is who. Guilt is what.

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